Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Get Married, But Don't Be Flamboyant?

A particularly disturbing story has appeared in the Los Angeles Times today:

Gay couples are emphasizing low-key weddings

Now, as one half of a gay couple that's about to have a very low-key wedding, I began reading with interest. The headline suggested to me that perhaps gay couples were having low-key weddings for a variety of reasons. I know that personally, marriage is only a fairly recent option, so when the Boyfriend and I were first a couple, it wasn't an option. This meant that we had to define our relationship for ourselves. While marriage is a wonderful right, the idea of the wedding has lost most of its significance for me.

But that's not what this article is about.

No, this article is about encouraging gay couples to avoid "flamboyant" weddings, so that opponents of same-sex marriage won't have inflammatory images to use in their campaign to amend California's constitution.

Images from gay weddings, said Lorri L. Jean, chief executive of the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center, could be used by opponents in a campaign designed to persuade California voters that gays and lesbians should not have the right to marry. Those getting married, she cautioned, should never lose sight of what they might be supplying to the other side.
Would Ms Jean like us to abstain from sex until after the election, too? Perhaps gay men should marry women this summer, and hope no one finds out that same-sex marriage is even an option in California.

Hey, Lorri L. Jean, here's a question. Have you ever seen an offensive or inflammatory image of a gay wedding? I haven't. Couples have been getting married in Massachusetts and Canada for years, and even longer in parts of Europe. Where are these offensive weddings taking place? Who are these gay men and lesbians who have "lost sight of what they might be supplying to the other side?"

It seems to me that your request, Ms Jean, has insulted all of us, and attempts to reduce our relationships to a category "less than" that of our heterosexual counterparts. Does Focus on the Family keep you on the payroll?

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